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What Is Pleasure Medicine?
A New Sober Event in London For Gay Men
Pleasure Medicine is not your average gay event. It’s a connection workshop and conscious dance space where gay, bi, queer and trans men come together to reconnect with their innate joy, aliveness, radiance and desire to cultivate community.
You walk into Pleasure Medicine and you feel instantly safe, at home and accepted. No need to try to fit in…
Because you already belong.
Here there is no judgment, comparison or pressure to perform. With us, you let the masks gently melt away and the walls come down.
And in their place there is warmth, laughter, fabulous music, embodied sober conscious dance, and a community of GBTQ+ men who all want the same thing — friendship, freedom, family and belonging.
“This really is the start of something beautiful”
“I found a part of myself I thought I’d lost”
“I’ve never felt safe to be my full self around other gay men. Pleasure Medicine is the first time”
“I’ve realised there’s something so masculine and attractive about letting the feminine playful side out”
“The more I come to Pleasure Medicine the more confident I feel in my body and myself as a gay man”
“This is what I’ve dreamed of but never thought could exist”
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WHO IS IT FOR?
Pleasure Medicine is a gay Ecstatic Dance and Conscious Dance in London. It’s for all bodies — the beautiful and multifaceted variety of us gay men.
It is a revolutionary and radical space for men who are:
Feeling disconnected from the gay scene and the world of apps and surface-level interactions
Tired of the endless swiping, ghosting and performative masculinity
Craving something deeper, more authentic and aligned with who you really are.
Ready to move on from trauma, shame and past wounds. Whether it's internalised homophobia or years of feeling like you're "too much" or "not enough" — this is a space of full acceptance and gentle healing.
You want to be seen, held and accepted among other gay men without the pressure of sexual performance or expectation. Just pure, embodied human connection and fun!
Curious about embodiment, somatic healing and free uninhibited movement through Ecstatic Dance. You’re interested in exploring how movement, dance and conscious touch can unlock joy, delight and pleasure in your body…
WHAT HAPPENS IN AN ECSTATIC DANCE FOR GAY MEN?
The Pleasure Medicine Journey
🪷 Opening Circle
We begin together by grounding, breathing and setting the tone for openness, safety, respect and care. This is where we build the safety that allows real freedom to flourish. And you set your intentions.
🤝 The Pleasure Medicine Connection Workshop
What truly sets Pleasure Medicine apart from any other conscious dance is this: as gay men, we were never taught how to relax around other guys.
We walk into a room and our guard goes up. We scan the space, wondering who’s here? Am I enough? Do I fit in? We puff up our chests, uncross our legs, lower our voices, edit the way we express. It’s exhausting. And it stops here.
We open each Pleasure Medicine session with an hour of playful, heart-opening connection practices. Games and exercises that melt social awkwardness and spark real, human connection. You’ll meet everyone in the room in ways that feel fun, deep, and natural. No need to perform or impress. You can finally exhale, drop the mask and just be yourself.
💃 The Ecstatic Dance Journey
A 90-minute sober dance experience with a live DJ playing a wave of ambient, tribal, disco, soul and deep house. No choreography to learn. It’s you, your unique expression, the music and your new Pleasure Fam for the afternoon. All bodies, ages and backgrounds come to Pleasure Medicine. This is a space of love and inclusion for all GBTQ+ men. If you’re even thinking “is this for me?” it’s probably a yes.
🌈 Closing Circle & Optional Community Hangout
We integrate, reflect and relax into gentle sharing (if you’re called) and conversation. For many men, this is where the the beginning of new friendships, chosen family and a deeper sense of belonging happens.
There is a growing family and community at Pleasure Medicine and we can’t wait for you to come join us.
“It was amazing to be sensual and intimate with other men without it being overtly sexual. Truly liberating and freeing”
Introducing Your Facilitator & DJ
GARY ALBERT
Gary is an award-winning music maker and performer, conscious DJ, writer and creator of Pleasure Medicine, a bi-weekly Ecstatic Dance for gay men that involves sensual connection and conscious dance in Hackney, East London.
With over a decade of experience as a therapist, and currently training as a Somatic Sexologist, Gary is devoted to helping gay men unlock their pleasure centres, soften shame and rediscover joy, intimacy and sensuality through embodied dance and celebratory sexuality.
Gary is a columnist for queer culture magazine QX Magazine and writes personal story and opinion pieces as well as cultural analysis all from the perspective of being in the waters with the reader, trying to work it all out…
IN THE NEWS
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Learning Sex Again at 40: From Addiction to Soulful Sexuality
25.4.25
I never thought I’d need to learn how to have sex again. Especially at 40 years old! I’d never thought of sex as being a problem. Quite the opposite actually; it was my solution to everything. My quick fix. My escape. My validation. And ultimately, it turns out, my addiction.
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How Sober Dancing Changed My Life: From Gay Clubs & Drugs to Substance Free Joy
14.4.25
I still remember my first sober dance. The anxiety and awkwardness I felt as I walked into the studio space without the liquid courage I’d come to rely on. The vulnerability of having nowhere to hide. No drink in hand, no darkened club corners, no chemical buffer between me and my feelings.
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Be The Gay You Want To See In The World: A Story of Coldness ti Queer Connection
2.4.25
There’s this peculiar phenomenon in queer spaces that I’ve come to call ‘the gay cold shoulder’ – that icy, razor-sharp, side-eye moment where we look at another gay man and silently say “who does she think she is?!” It’s a defence mechanism so refined, it could win olympic gold in psychological gymnastics.
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If you have any questions about Pleasure Medicine or Ecstatic Dance for gay men in London, please reach out and we will get back to you within 24 hours!